There's no buffer. I am sitting here, feeling anxiety, sadness, anger, and breathing deeply. I'm conscious of choices. I'm aware that there are various approaches I can take.
There are distractions I can indulge in if I want to take that route. I can order myself a cookie. I can go home and watch a movie on HBO. I can call up my grandfather and tell him he is wrong, or find an article written about an "enemy" and leave a comment about what a fraud he is.
There are even some positive actions that I could use to distract myself. I could go run another 3 miles (already ran 3 miles today). I could go home and clean. I could go do several hours of Tai Chi. I could reframe my situation, hypnotize myself to feel good and set some goals.
I will not do any of these things. (Click here to read more at ReturningToTheLight.com)